The best way to control people is to encourage them to be mischievous. Then
they will be in control in its wider sense. To give your sheep or cow a large, spacious meadow is the way to control him. So it
is with people: ﬁrst let them do what they want, and watch them. This is the best policy. To ignore them is not good; that is
the worst policy. The second worst is trying to control them. The best one is to watch them, just to watch them, without
trying to control them.
– Shunryu Suzuki in Zen Mind Beginner’s Mind